Most men will proudly claim they “know their way around a woman’s body,” but even the most accomplished lover must admit that certain intricate aspects remain a mystery. Therefore, the best way to illuminate the darker corners of the female anatomy, those corners that will glow in pleasure when a light is cast upon them, is to go directly to the source. I recently sat down with some of my gay and bisexual friends, women who aren’t shy about spilling the goods about their girl-on-girl experiences. Although I’m certain you are confident in your bedroom abilities, most of you secretly wish to know of the X-factor -- that one missing skill from your repertoire that can escalate your encounter from a standard rated-R scene to the neighbors turning to each other and saying, “My God, someone’s killing her in there!” These liberal ladies I spoke to know things. So here’s what I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences.
Pay attention to everything
All men will have to concede the following fact: they are all, at one time or another, shortsighted. In other words, when things begin to heat up, the man will quickly target the obvious erogenous zones and set up camp, essentially ignoring the majority of the woman’s body. This classic mistake is what I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences, and any gay or bisexual woman will tell you: it’s all about loving the entire being -- caressing the soul through the expansive caresses of the body. Keep moving slowly until you touch an unexpected spot that will send an electric shock wave up her spine. Perhaps it’s the nape of her neck, the small of her back or even her wrists; your movements should encompass her body from head to toe, and your ministrations should be smooth and inflamed with desire.
Have a soft touch
This applies to men who continue to suffer from the belief that the preferred, masculine technique centers squarely on aggressive passion. Now, there is a time and a place for everything, but if you haven’t mastered a soft touch, you’re little more than a one-trick pony. What I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences is that women gravitate toward other women because they’re works of art, they’re soft and tender, and above all else, they respond to those who appreciate the delicateness of their constitution. A woman’s body is more sensitive (as clearly indicated in the previous hint), and with gentle fingertips and subtle lips, you can take full control of her sexual urgings. You can increase the level of firmness when she responds to something in particular, but you must restrain baser impulses and refine your approach.
Foreplay can last for hours
I just heard the echoing collective groan of about a thousand men around the globe, but as they say, the best results take time and effort. The ladies I know who relate certain mind-blowing girl-on-girl experiences emphasize one rule above all others: don’t rush. Don’t think you’re a Casanova just because you can make her moan with abandon for 20 minutes. That’s child’s play; real foreplay, the kind of pre-sex petting that puts both partners on the precipice before there’s any penetration, is crucial to her ultimate pleasure and your reputation. What I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences is that if you take the time, women not only keep the memorable night close to their hearts, but they’re also very likely to explain to their girlfriends how you’re “different.” How you took the time to make her feel special, how you brought her close to orgasm about 10 times before either of you were fully undressed. This is all about patience and a desire to blow her mind; this puts her interests above yours (for now).
Look women in the eyes
If you’ve ever had the privilege of watching two women make love, you’ll notice they look each other in the eyes quite often. If anybody is wondering why men avoid eye contact during sex, I’m about to blow the cover off the secret: It’s because that, from the time we were youngsters, we were taught -- perhaps indirectly -- to hide emotion. Obviously, there’s a great deal of emotion involved in sex (at least, there should be), and too many men aren’t secure enough to put their emotional roller coaster on display. It’s painful to admit, but the truth will indeed set you free and set her on a course to more than a few mind-bending climaxes. Look her in the eye, build with her and watch her explode; if you did it right, you’ll be treated to the eyes-rolling-back-in-the-head eruption. Wanna know what I learned from their girl-on-girl experiences? True intimacy can’t exist without eye contact.